Blogger Drama & The Importance of remaining True to Yourself / by Didier Young

As I sat down to write this blog post, it dawned on me that my blog is almost at its two year anniversary. I still feel immensely blessed to be able to call this my full time job and it truly wouldn’t have been possible without all of you. What started off as a platform for me to review new food places and openings in Toronto slowly transitioned into a lifestyle blog and a place where I could share my thoughts and feelings. I remember the first time I decided to publish a personal blog post and I felt so anxious about how it would be received and you guys were so supportive through it all. However, when it came down to somewhat polarized subjects, I obviously garnered a few nods of disapproval.

In January, I wrote a post that recapped 2017 for me and I made allusion to an incident that involved another person who was part of the Toronto blogging community. The repercussions of the article were moderate. While I knew that I would be shunned by a small group of people close to him, it did seep through to include a few other bloggers whom I used to have a lot of admiration for and whom I used to consider as friends. Those unexpected relationship closures did send me into a slight spell of depression during the later part of the month, a time during which it became harder for me to trust my peers. Now that it’s been a few months and that I can finally think clearly back on the subject, two positive aspects of this situation arose.

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First and foremost, I’d like that say that no matter what topic you choose to write about, you will always have people who enjoy the subject and others who will hate it. At the end of the day, you can try as hard as you wish but you will never be able to please everyone around you. There is only one person that you should try to please and to remain true to: yourself. You should always write about what you believe in and your personal truth because that’s the only only thing that should matter.

The second point does tie in with the first but it is worth repeating. You cannot make everyone happy and as such, no matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to turn everyone you meet into a friend. In life, you will encounter people who will be fake to you, pretend to like you and simply ditch you at the first occasion. Once you realize that, you’ll know that it’s okay not to be universally loved because there is no such thing. Instead, find the group of people with whom you connect the most and whom you truly appreciate and stick with them.

If you’ve read til this point, congratulations you’ve made it to the end of my self-help rant! I’d like to thank everyone for their support and for being here for me through thick and thin. You cannot imagine how therapeutic it has been for me to write about my joys and my heartaches for the past two years and knowing that I wasn’t the only person who felt that way. You are the driving force that truly make my job enjoyable and worthwhile.

-Didier

 

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